Unmodern Aspects of Islam (28): Disposable Friendships

 

Did you know that studies show most friendships today last only a few years, often ending when people change jobs, schools, or locations? Friendships have become disposable—kept while convenient, discarded when costly.

This fragility leaves many feeling replaceable. One disagreement, one busy season, and bonds dissolve. Loyalty is rare, and loneliness grows deeper.

The Prophet ﷺ said: “The most beloved of people to Allah are those who are most beneficial to others.” (al-Mu‘jam al-Awsaṭ, 6192) And he also said: “A believer is the mirror of his brother.” (Sunan Abī Dāwūd, 4918) True friendship in Islam is built on sincerity, loyalty, and helping one another toward Jannah—not on temporary convenience.

The early Muslims were bound together by faith. They shared their wealth, defended one another, and stood by each other in hardship and joy. Their brotherhood was not seasonal—it was lifelong.

What about us? Instead of seeking friendships that entertain, let’s invest in friendships that endure. Call a friend, support them, remind them of Allah. That loyalty is the essence of Islamic brotherhood.

In a modern world, the Sunnah is our way back to what truly matters.